Just a little update on Valera and what’s happening with him before I leave for the Ukraine on the 11th to start the process for Oksana:
He’s doing very well; he’s unfortunately lost his Russian at this point. He asked me to buy Rosetta Stone in Russian so he doesn’t forget or that he can re-learn his Russian, and also Spanish as he wants to learn it too. We have received them and plan to start when I return from the Ukraine over Christmas. This is exciting! His pronunciation in Spanish is almost perfect as they roll their “r’s” in Russian. He made fun of Arlin because Arlin cannot roll his “r’s”; we have to work on that.
Valera is very open, loving, caring, thoughtful, sensitive, empathetic, bright, perceptive, discerning, intuitive, forthright, decisive, having no fear, a risk taker, spontaneous, adventurous, funny, imaginative, creative, curious, quick to repent and to ask for forgiveness AND name his wrong action, forgiving (he’s always saying after he has pointed out something I have done or said that is “bad”, wrong, or hurtful, ”Mum, it’s ok mum, I forgive you” He’s a lover of animals and ALL babies- human or mammal, appreciates and expresses his delight in beauty- in nature, art, things, people, etc….loves good “expensive” food (where did he learn that?) and has a Mediterrean pallet, loving pesto, hummus, flat bread, tortillas, mult-igrain “homemade” bread, leaks, onions, almost all fruits and vegetables, yogurt, milk, ice-cream –Turkey Hill or homemade, only hard specialty cheeses, no American cheese for him, and of course, certain candy, dark chocolate, marshmallows…. I know, I KNOW!!! What an amazing little person right???!!!!
But then he’s ALSO…. Very strong willed, demanding, and a perfectionist (which plays both ways, constructive and nonconstructive). He has “selective” memory. But don’t many of us? :)
I’d say we go head to head about 5 times a day on various things… the schedule I have for him, doing his chores, homework, who’s the boss-me, Arlin, God or him depending on who is home at the time… when I tell him it’s me, he says “NO Mum, YOU NOTTTA the boss, Poppa the boss!!!” but then when I tell him that Poppa is in agreement with me over whatever the matter at hand is he says, “You NOTTTA the boss Mum, GOD the boss!!! You NOT TTA the boss!” Well that about takes the cake. It’s exhausting as those with strong willed children can attest to.
He’s so funny, some days he gets up and says, “Mum, I no fighting vitha youa today Mum, I no lika fighting vith you alla da tima Mum, ok? Today I say ‘yes mumma’ ok?” And other times he just does whatever I ask of him without a fight or struggle and after a period of doing that for about an hour or so, he points out to me in case I’m not observing, “Mum, youa see howa I no fighting vith a youa today Mum, I a gooda today Mum, I no lika fighting vith you Mumma.” Then I have to gush all over him with bear hugs and kisses telling him how wonderful and magnificent he is and how lovely it is when we get along and he does as I direct or instruct. To which he replies, “O Mumma, youa so funny Mum!”
He’s doing very well; he’s unfortunately lost his Russian at this point. He asked me to buy Rosetta Stone in Russian so he doesn’t forget or that he can re-learn his Russian, and also Spanish as he wants to learn it too. We have received them and plan to start when I return from the Ukraine over Christmas. This is exciting! His pronunciation in Spanish is almost perfect as they roll their “r’s” in Russian. He made fun of Arlin because Arlin cannot roll his “r’s”; we have to work on that.
Valera is very open, loving, caring, thoughtful, sensitive, empathetic, bright, perceptive, discerning, intuitive, forthright, decisive, having no fear, a risk taker, spontaneous, adventurous, funny, imaginative, creative, curious, quick to repent and to ask for forgiveness AND name his wrong action, forgiving (he’s always saying after he has pointed out something I have done or said that is “bad”, wrong, or hurtful, ”Mum, it’s ok mum, I forgive you” He’s a lover of animals and ALL babies- human or mammal, appreciates and expresses his delight in beauty- in nature, art, things, people, etc….loves good “expensive” food (where did he learn that?) and has a Mediterrean pallet, loving pesto, hummus, flat bread, tortillas, mult-igrain “homemade” bread, leaks, onions, almost all fruits and vegetables, yogurt, milk, ice-cream –Turkey Hill or homemade, only hard specialty cheeses, no American cheese for him, and of course, certain candy, dark chocolate, marshmallows…. I know, I KNOW!!! What an amazing little person right???!!!!
But then he’s ALSO…. Very strong willed, demanding, and a perfectionist (which plays both ways, constructive and nonconstructive). He has “selective” memory. But don’t many of us? :)
I’d say we go head to head about 5 times a day on various things… the schedule I have for him, doing his chores, homework, who’s the boss-me, Arlin, God or him depending on who is home at the time… when I tell him it’s me, he says “NO Mum, YOU NOTTTA the boss, Poppa the boss!!!” but then when I tell him that Poppa is in agreement with me over whatever the matter at hand is he says, “You NOTTTA the boss Mum, GOD the boss!!! You NOT TTA the boss!” Well that about takes the cake. It’s exhausting as those with strong willed children can attest to.
He’s so funny, some days he gets up and says, “Mum, I no fighting vitha youa today Mum, I no lika fighting vith you alla da tima Mum, ok? Today I say ‘yes mumma’ ok?” And other times he just does whatever I ask of him without a fight or struggle and after a period of doing that for about an hour or so, he points out to me in case I’m not observing, “Mum, youa see howa I no fighting vith a youa today Mum, I a gooda today Mum, I no lika fighting vith you Mumma.” Then I have to gush all over him with bear hugs and kisses telling him how wonderful and magnificent he is and how lovely it is when we get along and he does as I direct or instruct. To which he replies, “O Mumma, youa so funny Mum!”
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